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Notes To Self

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“Before you climb the ladder of success, make sure it’s leaning on the right building.”
– Zig Ziglar

The words Facebook Depression caught my eye on Arriane's post in her blog's Facebook account. Now, that really got me thinking.

I'm sure we all have felt this tinge of sadness/envy/jealousy when we see our friend's/high school classmate's/college buddy's Facebook posts about how they recently got engaged/married with their perfect significant others, or a photo of getting their car (with a silly name) washed, or a check-in at a place insanely far away from where you are sitting right now and they are having the time of their life.

Sometimes, I find myself thinking, "What have I done in my life so far?"

Upon reading Arriane's blog post, she stresses these two points:
  1. What’s YOUR definition of success?
  2. Stop comparing yourself to others – because their definition of success is probably different than yours.
Okay. For point #1, I aim for something that everybody else wants. At this stage in my life, I think my definition of success would be (in general) to go out more and try new things, be good (or great) at work, invest and save up. Basically, be financially secure and invest on things I will need in my life in the future. On a more specific note, it would be learning Web Design and getting a job related to that.

Point #2 is what I really need to do because that's right, we all have personal definitions of the word success.
"Don’t let your ladder of success lean on the building of others (or others’ Facebook status updates!!!!!). Seriously. Comparing what you have or what you’ve done to that of others is the quickest way to de-motivate and sabotage yourself. Let their success stories inspire you, but don’t go chasing after their dreams. Create and stay true to your own definition of success."
This is what I truly need to hear (or read). Most of the time, I measure my own accomplishments with what others have already achieved. I know it's human nature to do this. Most of the time, it easily brings me down. After reading this positive note from Arriane, I thought success is what/where I am now despite every obstacle that's been in my way throughout my life. And it's not bad! Everything is actually great.

We all have our personal stories and struggles. I was just made to remember not to look at my life based on other people's perspectives or measure it using other people's sticks. In times of self doubt, I'm very glad to be reminded of these little things that gives me a boost and a more positive approach in life.☺It's still a long way ahead anyway.

Read more little notes of positivity and motivation on Arriane's website, *Wanderrgirl.com.


  1. Comparison could easily be one of the worst things ever. (I mean, one way to go about it is to compare and be inspired or even more determined, but most of the time, comparison leads to depression or jealousy.) And this age of social media just makes it THAT MUCH EASIER to compare yourself to other people!

    "I thought success is what/where I am now despite every obstacle that's been in my way throughout my life. And it's not bad! Everything is actually great." -- And most of the time, this is the case. If you frame it in the proper perspective, we realize just how great life is, and how strong and amazing people we've become as well. Maybe a different kind of amazing from your friends/people you look up to, but amazing nonetheless :)

  2. Thank you so much for the inspirational words! Your positivity is such a motivation for other people. Thanks again, Arriane. :)


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